Sammy How Come...........

[BobbyFK]

Pics or it doesn’t count

You sound like JJ now

 

[samsncharge99]

All BMR jokes aside it’s hard to find someone you are attracted to that you also have a lot in common with.

Might be worth a little more effort for a few weeks and see where things lead. Don’t have a lot to lose.

She has a 1 year old or else id be going on a date tonight. most know i was married and divorced and was a step dad to 2 kids for 3-4 years. Ive done it. Lived it

i want my own kid 10000000000%. I want to be a dad. I love kids. But i dont necessarily want to do the step dad adventure again if i can avoid it

 

[samsncharge99]

Heyyy. So ill always say what im thinking and heres whats going on

Last week was completely random. We talked about it. It was a fun night and we have a ton in common. I enjoyed it

After this past tuesday i acknowledge you arent a hook up and that wasnt my intention it simply happened 2 weeks back

The next step would be to take you out go on a real date and all that. Believe me the thought has been on my mind since last tuesday

But ill also mention you have a 1 year old son. You know my past. I was married and step dad to 2 kids for a few years. Im not still in contact with the kids but its still a part of my life

I want to be a dad more than anything. Its probably highest on my list. But i also want my own kid.

So if i were to take you out eventually your son is a variable. Not a negative not at all. But its in my mind as if we did date long term id back in that step dad role where i want to have my own blood kid

I have no idea if you have baby dady drama or if you are on good terms or whatever and thats not my business

What im grtting to is my thought process is ive enjoyed hanging out. The similarities we have is scary especially with movies and shows and apparently the weird mind sets we have haha

But if im totally honest im not mentally in a position where i want to put you in a position to let you down or your son

I know we havent even dated yet and i feel like this is a break up. Im just not an asshole as you know or i hope you can see and putting my cards on table.

Id rather say this now then in 3-4 months. Rip the band aid off and be honest

 

[samsncharge99]

If anyone ever wanted to question me and who i am. I think this thread shows some raw and vivid pictures and stories

i of course always make tons of videos and im transparents in my gambling and car sales and now giving more insight to a girl i hung out with 2x

this is life. Some of you follow my on social media. See my stories and posts and stupid shit i post. im genuine in who i am

dating is hard. its fun at times last 2 weeks back. uncomfortable like 2 days ago. And real. Like the message i posted above that i sent to her

best i can do is be me which i always will be. True to myself and my thought process on life. Cant force it but acknowledge what is working and what isnt

i guess this post should go under JJs are you happy thread haha

 

[jjgold]

Sammy I am still trying to figure out why she came to your house second time

it sure was not you women are weird

Sammy bang hookers and be happy

 

[BigJay]

You should go to her house and look into her bedroom window tonight until she catches you.

That will show her you really like her

 

[BigJay]

Heyyy. So ill always say what im thinking and heres whats going on

Last week was completely random. We talked about it. It was a fun night and we have a ton in common. I enjoyed it

After this past tuesday i acknowledge you arent a hook up and that wasnt my intention it simply happened 2 weeks back

The next step would be to take you out go on a real date and all that. Believe me the thought has been on my mind since last tuesday

But ill also mention you have a 1 year old son. You know my past. I was married and step dad to 2 kids for a few years. Im not still in contact with the kids but its still a part of my life

I want to be a dad more than anything. Its probably highest on my list. But i also want my own kid.

So if i were to take you out eventually your son is a variable. Not a negative not at all. But its in my mind as if we did date long term id back in that step dad role where i want to have my own blood kid

I have no idea if you have baby dady drama or if you are on good terms or whatever and thats not my business

What im grtting to is my thought process is ive enjoyed hanging out. The similarities we have is scary especially with movies and shows and apparently the weird mind sets we have haha

But if im totally honest im not mentally in a position where i want to put you in a position to let you down or your son

I know we havent even dated yet and i feel like this is a break up. Im just not an asshole as you know or i hope you can see and putting my cards on table.

Id rather say this now then in 3-4 months. Rip the band aid off and be honest

Did you send her this message Sammy?

You said some good things in there but I think you may have gone a little too far for someone who’s just seen her twice.

In my experience once someone sheds a little negative light on another’s kid/s they will usually be done with you. Most will have the mindset “we’re a package deal.”

You’re at that age now (you’re about 12-13 years younger than me I think) where the majority of the women in your dating pool will have kids. It’s tough.

My first long-term relationship from 31-35 she had two kids and didn’t get much support at all from her ex. I even supported all of them while she went back to nursing school. I just wasn’t into it within a couple of years and we broke up. Realistically we had one good year and 3 or so shitty ones so I know where you’re coming from. But honestly we didn’t have a damn thing in common as time went on.

I still might give her a shot. It’s going to be tougher to find someone “perfect” a lot in common and with no kids as you get older.

 

[JDS]

Some good conversations in here about different kinds of relationships @jjgold take notes or retire from the opposite sex.

 

[jjgold]

Tremendous info in the thread

Samuel a good guy

 

[samsncharge99]

Did you send her this message Sammy?

You said some good things in there but I think you may have gone a little too far for someone who’s just seen her twice.

In my experience once someone sheds a little negative light on another’s kid/s they will usually be done with you. Most will have the mindset “we’re a package deal.”

You’re at that age now (you’re about 12-13 years younger than me I think) where the majority of the women in your dating pool will have kids. It’s tough.

My first long-term relationship from 31-35 she had two kids and didn’t get much support at all from her ex. I even supported all of them while she went back to nursing school. I just wasn’t into it within a couple of years and we broke up. Realistically we had one good year and 3 or so shitty ones so I know where you’re coming from. But honestly we didn’t have a damn thing in common as time went on.

I still might give her a shot. It’s going to be tougher to find someone “perfect” a lot in common and with no kids as you get older.

I sent that to her. She took it

Did you send her this message Sammy?

You said some good things in there but I think you may have gone a little too far for someone who’s just seen her twice.

In my experience once someone sheds a little negative light on another’s kid/s they will usually be done with you. Most will have the mindset “we’re a package deal.”

You’re at that age now (you’re about 12-13 years younger than me I think) where the majority of the women in your dating pool will have kids. It’s tough.

My first long-term relationship from 31-35 she had two kids and didn’t get much support at all from her ex. I even supported all of them while she went back to nursing school. I just wasn’t into it within a couple of years and we broke up. Realistically we had one good year and 3 or so shitty ones so I know where you’re coming from. But honestly we didn’t have a damn thing in common as time went on.

I still might give her a shot. It’s going to be tougher to find someone “perfect” a lot in common and with no kids as you get older.

her response


I appreciate your honesty. I would never want to put you in a position that makes you feel uncomfortable or something you dont want to continue. I appreciate you putting him in your thought of all this too. I do want more kids in the future. But I understand where youre coming from with the whole step parent thing again.
No hard feelings, youre a great guy. I dont think youre an asshole, you feel how you feel. Youre still a good person. wish things were different, but i do understand. So thank you for that, it was fun i hope you find what youre looking , you deserve the best

 

[jjgold]

It’s over

Sammy let’s get back to tennis

 

[BobbyFK]

Heyyy. So ill always say what im thinking and heres whats going on

Last week was completely random. We talked about it. It was a fun night and we have a ton in common. I enjoyed it

After this past tuesday i acknowledge you arent a hook up and that wasnt my intention it simply happened 2 weeks back

The next step would be to take you out go on a real date and all that. Believe me the thought has been on my mind since last tuesday

But ill also mention you have a 1 year old son. You know my past. I was married and step dad to 2 kids for a few years. Im not still in contact with the kids but its still a part of my life

I want to be a dad more than anything. Its probably highest on my list. But i also want my own kid.

So if i were to take you out eventually your son is a variable. Not a negative not at all. But its in my mind as if we did date long term id back in that step dad role where i want to have my own blood kid

I have no idea if you have baby dady drama or if you are on good terms or whatever and thats not my business

What im grtting to is my thought process is ive enjoyed hanging out. The similarities we have is scary especially with movies and shows and apparently the weird mind sets we have haha

But if im totally honest im not mentally in a position where i want to put you in a position to let you down or your son

I know we havent even dated yet and i feel like this is a break up. Im just not an asshole as you know or i hope you can see and putting my cards on table.

Id rather say this now then in 3-4 months. Rip the band aid off and be honest

That was a very nice thing you said to her Sam. Let us know her response and hopefully it goes well for you with her Let us know her response and hopefully it goes well for you with her.

Edited to add: just saw her response. I'm glad you at least got some closure from that

 

[Tanko]

You should go to her house and look into her bedroom window tonight until she catches you.

That will show her you really like her

Sage advise Bigjay. That's always worked for me

 

[Tanko]

Some good conversations in here about different kinds of relationships @jjgold take notes or retire from the opposite sex.

Take good notes JJ this stuff is gold.

 

[JDS]

Sage advise Bigjay. That's always worked for me

BJ’s a real ball buster sometimes I love his style he‘s aces in my book

 

[Tanko]

I sent that to her. She took it

her response


I appreciate your honesty. I would never want to put you in a position that makes you feel uncomfortable or something you dont want to continue. I appreciate you putting him in your thought of all this too. I do want more kids in the future. But I understand where youre coming from with the whole step parent thing again.
No hard feelings, youre a great guy. I dont think youre an asshole, you feel how you feel. Youre still a good person. wish things were different, but i do understand. So thank you for that, it was fun i hope you find what youre looking , you deserve the best

Sammy's a stand up guy sending her that message.

I'm sad because the last line seems to indicate the relationship is over.

 

[samsncharge99]

Sammy's a stand up guy sending her that message.

I'm sad because the last line seems to indicate the relationship is over.

so now the skill is slowly trying to work this into a fukk buddy type of situation. We are still messaging.

 

[jjgold]

Sammy, working this girl like a car salesman
So am I getting this right she wanted to start dating you not just have sex?

 

[JDS]

so now the skill is slowly trying to work this into a fukk buddy type of situation. We are still messaging.

If your text game is on point then the wet panties may drop again.

 

[samsncharge99]

Sammy, working this girl like a car salesman
So am I getting this right she wanted to start dating you not just have sex?

she basically was like I'm not a hook up girl. I'm not the text at 1am saying you up and just leave the house and come over

and it was our 2nd time hanging out. So I understand that from her level. Basically she is saying she wants to fukk, but wants to be wined and dined first. Be proper.

YES, the car salesman ability to control conversations is a big advantage to me. I'm very good at talking and communicating