I kind of disagree with that, because in my own relationship. I’m like my girlfriend’s remedy to her depression. There wasn’t a pill in the world that could help her. She was a total mess before I came into her life. The love and compassion I’ve shown her, keeps her on a path to where the depression is almost nonexistent. Having said that this is only a one year sample size though. So we’ll see what happens long-term.
Yikes Jerky.
Read my post again. I start with the word sometimes.
There are some with clinical depression that get better just by managing their diet. It's completely external. There are some that commit suicide at the height of success, and some with no success, so external factors contribute far less.
Then there are some that feel lonely and down then get a boyfriend and things seem better.
I'm referring to depression, I'm not sure you are. I'm not saying you aren't, but surely can see the different levels and extremes we're talking about here.
If you find someone that is diagnosed clinically depressed, and is a "total mess" and can't find pill that works, then it's not likely some compassion from an individual will cause any lasting relief.
But if you find someone who is just a "total mess" and no pill will work because it's likely not the appropriate treatment, then there's a good chance it's not clinical or significant depression we're talking about here.
Mental health issues can be intertwined and the old school thinking that love and support from others combined with some sense of control by the person is enough almost always falls short of desired outcomes.
If your girl was truly depressed, before you met her, and you had an effect, then you will MOST LIKELY be in a continuous battle with her and her depression. Otherwise, it may not have been depression, and just a phase of life and her reactions.
It can be real sticky there as it is quite a spectrum to deal with and everyone is different.