Your father ended up being wrong about you with his assumptions of you being gay, so shame on him. Did he ever apologize for that once you got married ?
I would bet on he is dead. He was going down a very slippery slope, when the drugs changed from Crack to Fent that is a huge downward spiral. He was sure a character and had some fun posting with him. If he is still alive, I hope he is well.
Your father ended up being wrong about you with his assumptions of you being gay, so shame on him. Did he ever apologize for that once you got married ?
This is why you have more friends/family than I do because it’s never water under the bridge for me lol. I’ve burned a lot of bridges, but I’m OK having a small circle in life. Different strokes for different folks, but I will say your way is probably the better route to take.