Are you a talker or a listener?

[BigJay]

This dynamic plays itself out so many times when I’m out to eat

Two people at a table. One taking their heads off and often spouting nonsense and talking

The other not saying a word

The fat lady in yellow talked non stop at this place I stopped for lunch while the other one didn’t say a word

Are you a talker or a listener?

 

[BigJay]

I find the same dynamic when I go to eat breakfast with a lot of the old men that drink coffee daily

There’s usually one holding court. Telling old war stories or how it was back in the day and another guy that maybe chimes in with a word or two every 5 minutes

 

[JDS]

I’m usually a listener I don’t go on and on about my life in conversation. I’m usually the one asking questions to create a conversation. Now, if you ask me questions, then I can get into some shit.

 

[jjgold]

median

 

[BMR Genie]

I can be both, it just depends on the situation and company I'm in.

 

[BigJay]

The lady in yellow was gyrating all around during her one-way conversation trying to emphasize her points

Impossible to not notice. I thought she was having a fit when I first got there

 

[BMR Genie]

The lady in yellow was gyrating all around during her one-way conversation trying to emphasize her points

Impossible to not notice. I thought she was having a fit when I first got there

Maybe that's the very reason why she chose the nonchalant friend, (or maybe that's her sister) to bring there so she can vent with no interruption. haha

 

[Tanko]

@BigJay just shut the hell up and listen ok. I've got some things to say.

 

[sunshine11]

I’ve always been good at cutting people off on the phone. So I guess I’m a talker. Haha Women are typical more talkers.

 

[sunshine11]

The lady in yellow was gyrating all around during her one-way conversation trying to emphasize her points

Impossible to not notice. I thought she was having a fit when I first got there

they didn’t see you take pic.

 

[JDS]

I’ve always been good at cutting people off on the phone. So I guess I’m a talker. Haha Women are typical more talkers.

Yeah I agree with this, thank God my lady is not a huge talker or I couldn’t live with her. People who always tell long ass stories are annoying as f*** lol.

 

[BMR Genie]

Women mostly = Talker and nagger

 

[djefferis]

Listen when someone is sharing wisdom.

If you find yourself having to do all the talking - you are either surrounding yourself with the wrong people or you are the problem.

Deal with it daily at my work - team of 7 and have 2 coworkers who do 95% of the talking - of course they think they know EVERYTHING and while they have been around a long time - the probably are wrong half the time. The other 5% is the company “cheerleader” whose most valuable contributions are “it’s the weekend” memes and complaints about Mondays along with the occasional “way to go” for some meaningless anniversary the company is celebrating.

 

[BMR Genie]

Listen when someone is sharing wisdom.

If you find yourself having to do all the talking - you are either surrounding yourself with the wrong people or you are the problem.

Deal with it daily at my work - team of 7 and have 2 coworkers who do 95% of the talking - of course they think they know EVERYTHING and while they have been around a long time - the probably are wrong half the time. The other 5% is the company “cheerleader” whose most valuable contributions are “it’s the weekend” memes and complaints about Mondays along with the occasional “way to go” for some meaningless anniversary the company is celebrating.

I have a small group of friends before who always talk about their work, achievements, and politics. They are indeed smart people, I give them that. My role is to always nod and listen lol. In the end I kinda "ghosted" them and they eventually kicked me out of the group chat lol.

 

[Tanko]

Favorite personal development book is: How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

Key principal is to listen more than you talk and if they stop talking, ask them open ended questions about their lives to allow them to speak more. People like to talk about their family, accomplishments, goals, etc... If you let them (or help them) do it, they will subconciously see you as a friend.

 

[BMR Genie]

Favorite personal development book is: How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

Key principal is to listen more than you talk and if they stop talking, ask them open ended questions about their lives to allow them to speak more. People like to talk about their family, accomplishments, goals, etc... If you let them (or help them) do it, they will subconciously see you as a friend.

I know you mentioned this book before, and the time I went to buy it, they were out of stock, I ended up buying this instead.

 

[BobbyFK]

I would consider myself a talker but I really should be a listener. I think you learn more by listening and not talking

 

[Tanko]

I know you mentioned this book before, and the time I went to buy it, they were out of stock, I ended up buying this instead.

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That's a good one too.
I can summarize it in two words: "Just Chill"

 

[BMR Genie]

That's a good one too.
I can summarize it in two words: "Just Chill"

LOL. A perfect summary!

 

[BigJay]

Favorite personal development book is: How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

This book you mention @Tanko is not as important and globally well known as @MinnesotaFats book, but still probably a good one nonetheless