I am very reluctant to bring this public to BMR but I feel many of you know JJ personally as well, not just the poster here. In this day and age a persons mental health and their over all well-being should be monitored especially when they live alone. I myself struggle with demons as I live alone and I keep myself isolated from people, just like JJ. I can no longer stay silent about this. I have tried to talk with him many times over the years about this but it gets worse and worse each year, month and day. This is not a joke or something to be made fun of, it is a serious concern. I tried to have a serious conversation with him about this a few days ago as well as yesterday and he just ignored me when I was bringing up this subject. So I feel I need to do an open letter here, to your friend, our leader, our hero, a forum icon and my friend, JJ Gold.
Dear JJ,
I am writing this letter because I care about you deeply, and I don’t know how else to express the level of concern I’ve been carrying for some time now.
We have been friends for over 20 years, and that history means everything to me. Because of that, I feel a responsibility to be honest with you, even when it’s uncomfortable. We have spent a lot of time together, traveled out of the country together and we have shared intimate details about our personal lives. We converse daily and we know each other pretty well. For roughly the past five years, you have been sharing extremely detailed accounts of your daily life with me—when you wake up, what you eat for every meal, what you are watching on television, what music you are listening to, your daily schedule, and even your plans for the coming week.
I want you to know that I don’t find
you disturbing—but I do find this pattern deeply concerning.
This level of constant reporting feels unnecessary and excessive, and it has made me worry about your well-being. It feels less like casual sharing and more like something you feel compelled to do. That worries me because it suggests you might be struggling in ways that aren’t being addressed, or that you may be relying on me in a way that isn’t healthy for either of us.
I am not writing this to judge you or push you away. I’m writing because I genuinely care about your mental health and your quality of life. I’m concerned that something deeper may be going on—loneliness, anxiety, or something else that deserves real attention and professional support.
I want you to know that help is available, and you do not have to navigate this alone. I would be more than willing to help you find someone to talk to, whether that’s a therapist, counselor, or medical professional who can help assess what you’re going through. Having your mental health checked is not a failure—it’s an act of self-care and strength.
Our friendship matters to me, and because it matters, I can’t ignore what I’m seeing. I truly want you to be well, to feel secure, and to have support that goes beyond our conversations.
Please take this letter in the spirit it’s intended: with care, concern, and genuine hope for your well-being.
With sincerity and concern,
A friend who truly cares,
Your friend,
Joshua aka Illini
This was just from yesterday, example #1
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A few hours later in the day, example #2
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And at night , example #3
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I have years of messages like this, it is very concerning to say the least.
