Should You Change For Someone You Love?

[BMR Ivy]

 

[JDS]

No way find another partner & move on from previous relationship if that person can’t accept you. You should always be up front & open in the beginning of dating and then there will not be any surprises on the backend of a relationship where they want to change you.

 

[BMR Genie]

You can’t change anybody, it’s always up to the person to change and be willing to change.

 

[BMR Genie]

No way find another partner & move on from previous relationship if that person can’t accept you. You should always be up front & open in the beginning of dating and then there will not be no surprises on the backend of a relationship where they want to change you.

Yap. Change because you want it, not because your partner, family, or friends want it.

 

[Tanko]

No - Not completely change. They should love you for who you are.

But some change is a good compromise as the best way to get through life with a partner. Changes can be made on both sides of a relationship to keep it a happy one.

 

[Tanko]

This question reminds me of the movie... Sleeping with the Enemy.
The guy wanted Julia Roberts to do all the changing in her life to meet what he expected. Didn't work out to well for the guy.

 

[badbull]

I would say that it’s a 50/50. I mean, it is pretty obvious that you’ll change or at least will show other side of yourself whenever you’re with your special someone.

My only relationship is one I keep in my heart with a lot of esteem, because my ex-girlfriend is probably the only person in the world that can understand me. She has this amazing ability to read people like a book, and she could pick me in whatever mood I was and treated me as I wished to be treated according to my mood.

Now, I’m an emotionless void of human being. But I had to return that appreciation, y’know? So I tried to be more empathetic. And it worked. For once, I learned to read someones emotions. Of course I didn’t completely changed the way I am. For starters, she wanted to be with me because I am who I am and she told me multiple times how much she admired me for that feature only.

So, my advice for this would be that, it’s ok, you’ll probably have to change one or two habits you have. But you have to feel comfortable on them. You can change this little things, but you can’t change your essence as a human being. Once you start getting farther away from that essence, you know that something is wrong and it’s unhealthy.

 

[JDS]

No - Not completely change. They should love you for who you are.

But some change is a good compromise as the best way to get through life with a partner. Changes can be made on both sides of a relationship to keep it a happy one.

Yeah little subtle changes here and there for both parties is a good idea. What you cannot change is somebody’s likes/dislikes, personality, etc.

 

[Tanko]

Yeah little subtle changes here and there for both parties is a good idea. What you cannot change is somebody’s likes/dislikes, personality, etc.

Agree. If they want you to change so damn much why the hell are they with to begin with?

 

[Tanko]

Biggest change for me was, putting the toilet seat down.
Took about 2 months before it became habit.

 

[BMR Genie]

This question reminds me of the movie... Sleeping with the Enemy.
The guy wanted Julia Roberts to do all the changing in her life to meet what he expected. Didn't work out to well for the guy.

I need to watch this movie.

 

[harpo]

Depends on what your Changing !!! But If U Really Love someone some Change should happen.

 

[BMR Ivy]

Yap. Change because you want it, not because your partner, family, or friends want it.

Dang!! It reminds me of your close friend genie that you have to choose between a friendship and a relationship.

 

[BMR Genie]

Biggest change for me was, putting the toilet seat down.
Took about 2 months before it became habit.

Haha, it's a good change, Tank! I saw a video that explained why you need to close the toilet lid, especially before flushing. You are going to thank your wife for this change haha

 

[DiggityDaggityDo]

I’d change my socks. Or my underwear.

 

[BMR Genie]

Dang!! It reminds me of your close friend genie that you have to choose between a friendship and a relationship.

Haha, I actually didn't have to choose nor she asked me to choose. I just went ahead and made my own life decisions regardless of what she thought.

 

[BMR Genie]

I’d change my socks. Or my underwear.

Haha.. But this is already given, DDD.

 

[Tanko]

I’d change my socks. Or my underwear.

Whoaaaaa up.
There are limits on what you should compromise on Diggity. Don't be a pushover.

 

[BMR Ivy]

Sometimes changing yourself is good for a relationship in fact, often it’s absolutely necessary. Relationships are based on compromise because, despite rom-com fantasies, there is no such thing as a
perfect fit between people.

 

[carolinakid]

it a give and take, i love a landing strip and i ask for this sometimes,